Welcome to Make Men Emotional Again, a newsletter for men (and others who support men) trying to unlearn myths about masculinity that can wreck relationships and keep us feeling disconnected
Hey there, I’m Jeremy. I once got my heart broken because I wasn’t emotionally available enough to my (now ex-) partner. Now I’m a therapist helping men and couples have better relationships.
Before becoming a therapist, I did marketing for Fortune 500 tech companies and then fought for economic and racial justice with the labor movement.
My writing has appeared in the Washington Post, Jacobin, the Guardian, and elsewhere.
WHAT IS MAKE MEN EMOTIONAL AGAIN?
Make Men Emotional Again is the newsletter I wish I had when I was lost and confused in my 20s. It’s for men (and those who support men) who don’t buy the outdated, unscientific, unhealthy, historically inaccurate version of “traditional” masculinity being sold by billionaires and “manfluencers”—and who are looking for something healthier and more accurate to our experience.
Since becoming a therapist a few years ago, I’ve been searching for answers for why so many of my clients (and myself) are struggling with how to be a man these days. On the one hand, we’re told we’re too privileged, not emotionally available enough, and potentially dangerous. On the other, we’re told it’s “natural” for us to be dominant, emotionally reserved, and aggressive.
This newsletter busts myths about masculinity and reconnects men with the emotional intelligence, relationship skills, and true confidence this society is designed to take from us.
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Your $5 a month (or $50 a year) helps pay for my house, internet, computer, books, and other things I need to keep this project going. It allows me to not have to see so many therapy clients every week, which tends to burn me out.
It also contributes to the National Domestic Workers Alliance (NDWA), an organization working to win respect, recognition, and labor rights for nannies, housecleaners, and homecare workers, to which I give 5 percent of my earnings from this newsletter each month.
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WHAT READERS ARE SAYING
This one gave me chills. Couldn't help commenting. Keep up the amazing writing.
— Tyrone
I feel happy to know that there are other men out there challenging masculine norms and the expectations of patriarchy.
— Ru
Your advice for men is very helpful to women as well.
— Arlene
I’m the mother of two teen boys and am finding all your work incredibly helpful in raising them to be good humans.
I love reader feedback, including ideas for what to write about. If you have thoughts about this newsletter or an idea for a future post, email me at jeremy@mohler.coach.
ABOUT ME
I’m Jeremy Mohler, LCPC (he/him), a licensed therapist and writer in the labor movement based in Baltimore, Maryland.
From my days working for labor unions, I bring a particular lens to men’s work. I’m deeply influenced by feminists like Silvia Federici, Nancy Fraser, and Keeanga-Yamahtta Taylor who blame capitalism for many of society’s issues.
I also want to give a shout out to my teachers and mentors, including Donald Cohen, Hetty Barnett, Tara Brach, Hugh Byrne, Natalie Goldberg, and many others.
Other than that, I love to cook (beans!), jam on my guitar with friends, and workout at the little mom-and-pop gym in my neighborhood.
You can follow me on Instagram here and TikTok here. You can always email me about anything (to vent, to get help finding a therapist, whatever): jeremy@mohler.coach
