This has been so much on my mind lately, and in my writing as well:
“Vulnerability isn’t just transparency. It’s asking someone to help carry something that’s difficult to carry. It’s exposing some aspect of yourself that could be judged negatively. Some thing you’ve done or experience you’ve had that you might be ashamed of. By not judging you—by simply seeing and hearing you—they’re helping you carry it.”
Thank you for this vulnerable, eloquent exploration. It echoes so much of what I hear from my partner in terms of how men like him feel inside vs what they show on the outside. (We’re both longtime fans of therapy, thankfully, or I probably wouldn’t know that.)
I’m so glad that resonated! My experience was fumbling through writing that and not being 100% certain that I got that down in the way I wanted. Shew, that makes me feel better!
Thank you so much for the great work you are doing on this (and for featuring Boymom)
I can’t wait to read “Boymom”!
thank you so much! I hope you enjoy it.
This has been so much on my mind lately, and in my writing as well:
“Vulnerability isn’t just transparency. It’s asking someone to help carry something that’s difficult to carry. It’s exposing some aspect of yourself that could be judged negatively. Some thing you’ve done or experience you’ve had that you might be ashamed of. By not judging you—by simply seeing and hearing you—they’re helping you carry it.”
Thank you for this vulnerable, eloquent exploration. It echoes so much of what I hear from my partner in terms of how men like him feel inside vs what they show on the outside. (We’re both longtime fans of therapy, thankfully, or I probably wouldn’t know that.)
I’m so glad that resonated! My experience was fumbling through writing that and not being 100% certain that I got that down in the way I wanted. Shew, that makes me feel better!
Yes, absolutely. I was fumbling towards that same thing, when talking about a friend who did what you eloquently described.
https://substack.com/home/post/p-146437578
Thanks so much for going first and making these lovely connections.